Take it easy.

I have been pondering a few different things.  The first is our inability to adequately communicate about loss. 
Let's say someone has lost their spouse to cancer.  One of our first responses is to reassure them that they will be fine because they can marry again or find someone new.  I don't see how this is sensitive to their situation.  Same goes for people who have lost a child or pregnancy.  We try to comfort them and say well...you can try again or maybe it will work next time. These "reassurances" completely diminish the fact that this person is struggling and hurting right now.  Loss is a part of life.  Everyone will experience loss in their life.  The best thing we can do is listen.  Really listen.
This leads me to the next thing I have been thinking about.  Everyone will experience loss in their lifetime.  Everyone will work through their loss in a different way.  I want to give an example to help get my thoughts across. 
We have 2 different people.  One of them has been abused and the others parents were divorced.  We as a society will feel more sympathy for the person who had been abused.  We kind ofjust give the other person a pat on the back and tell them "it happens".  While they are not the same, my point is this. The divorce can feel like as much of a loss to that  person as the abuse did to the other person.  We are all wired differently and things affect us differently.  It is our differences that make us beautiful!  My hope is that we don't judge people by the way they get through their losses.   
While I don't think we "signed up" for bad things to happen.  We did come here to earth to be tested and tried.  We will never hear our higher power say that we went through that one trial the wrong way.  Especially if our hearts are in the right place. When we are in our trials we are strengthening our realization that we are amazing!  You are doing the best you can with what you know.  While it hurts in the moment, each trial helps us grow that much more.  Take it easy on yourself.