Answering questions

In the world, infertility and child loss are a taboo subject.  We are on our own journey's to bring children into this world.  The road is filled with ups and downs.  Sometimes they come after actually having brought children into the world.  But on this road we are not alone.

Please feel free to offer support to friends or loved you know who have struggled with infertility or child loss.  They will appreciate it even though they may not be able to express it in the moment. 
I also want to mention that often the hardest part is having that awkward moment when someone asks. "How are you feeling?"  or "How is baby doing?"  Mainly because I felt bad for them.  I know they felt horrible for asking and "rubbing" it in that I had miscarried. 

Knowing the person you are talking to will help you navigate the thin and sometimes icy road to showing your support.  For me it was usually a hug or even a meaningful glance that you were there for me.  Or maybe a a pint of ben and jerry's ice cream and a movie.  For others they will need more.  A bouquet of flowers, a mini vacation or even some time alone to digest what is going on in their life.  Whatever it may be don't be afraid to ask!  Sometimes that is enough to show that you care and are there for them if they need you.