decisions

During the process of in vitro there are so many decisions to be made.  At the clinic I am going to they have options ranging from one IVF cycle all the way up to a guarantee program which gives you your money back if a live birth doesn't result.  Each couple will need to figure out what they feel would be a sufficient number of tries so if by chance they were not able to have a baby through IVF they could say..."We tried and I am okay with moving on to other options now."
Among the decision of which doctor to use and how many cycles you should do comes a whole slew of other decisions I never thought I'd need to make.  Some of these include what to do with the embryos if you or your spouse dies.  Who gets the embryos if you decide to split or divorce?  What if you both die?  Do you want a family member to take responsibility or would you donate them to science or maybe have them disposed of?  Sometimes you may feel strongly one way or another about a decision and other times you may feel indifferent.  As long as it makes sense to you and your spouse, and it feels right, that is all that matters.